Be A Clique- Breaker

Welcome back, friends! I hope this post finds you doing well and enjoying the last part of summer. Soon we will be in hoodies and leaves will be falling down. Children are already going back to school. In Middle School and High School, kids start identifying with a group of people. They hesitate to let other kids into their social groups. People usually see cliques as something only known to teenagers, but sadly cliques go with us way into adulthood. Today we are going to about cliques and how we can be compassionate and include other people.

Without going into to much information, I have been a victim of a clique. In my early 20's I hung out with a group of friends who were much older then me and took me under their wings. They were wonderful, caring and I trusted them- something that is hard for me. However, the further we got into our friendship the more I put into situations that I was not comfortable and couldn't have avoided. I was raised in a Christian home. I was kinda naive when it came to adult terms. I was only 21 and had not been exposed certain things and didn't know how to react. My parents never sat down with my brothers and I because we were great kids and we knew the difference from right and wrong. The more I was exposed to this lifestyle, the more I didn't want a part of it. To make a long story short, they have cut me out of their social circle and it has been that way since 2011. I know looking back things could have been different. I could have been their friends but not take part in the activities that made me uncomfortable. I tried to reconcile and repair what we had with no success. It breaks my heart.

Being left-out hurts! Today, it hurts even more then a past. On Facebook you can see people in your area and wonder why you were left off. You might not know that you hurt someday by doing something so seamlessly innocent. What can we do to be inclusive? First, you may need to get out of your comfort zone and talk to someone you don't know. They may want to be your friend and do things with your friends but you don't realize it. Be open-minded ! If someone doesn't want to do something don't cut them out! Make compromises! Do things they would like to be a part of! If there is someone you haven't talked to a while- text them or call them! Let them know you are thinking of them! As a group, think of ways you can include other people. Learn what each person likes and dislikes! Learn their talents! Everyone has something to offer! This is what makes humanity so beautiful! Accept each other's diffCerences and quirks. See past the flaws and see the heart.



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My next blog will be about what do with difficult people and about setting boundaries. Being inclusive does not mean you have to put up with certain behaviors or difficult people after you have done everything to include them.