Victim to Victor

Let's be honest! Life can be cruel, and people can be even crueler! We can do absolutely nothing wrong and be completely blindsided the next minute! I have been a victim of people telling me what I cannot do. I was told to my face that I would not about to anything. I have been denied jobs and worse because of people not giving me a chance and putting me in a box because I look a different way and act a different way. They don’t understand that if they work with me, I can achieve my goals and their goals! I do my best and do all the right things such as regularly touching base and asking questions. 

I should have peace, but while I know I do all the right things and leave no stone unturned; I take everything- including what other people say and do onto myself. In other words, I take their words and actions and make them apart of my identity, so I feel miserable, anxious, and depressed. 

God says in His word, we are more the conquerors in Him, and no weapon against us still stand. We are called to be victors instead of victims. How do we stop seeing ourselves as victims? I think it is sometimes easier to live as victims because we get to hold onto instead of moving forward. Moving forward seems scarier. I know for me, sometimes I fall into a mindset that I DESERVE to miserable because "IT IS MY FAULT." This is personalizing a situation and not seeing the many aspects of the situation that may indeed not be 1. Be your fault 2. Could be more about the other person then it reflects you. 

Here are some practical steps you and I can take starting today to move us from victim to victor.

1. Don't personalize the situation if you did everything you could and do not understand. There may be moving parts behind the scenes that have nothing to do with you. 

2. Memorize scripture that show victory. My personal go-to verse for such situations is Proverbs 31:25 - She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

3. Write down the opposite of what you are thinking and feeling. Train your brain to focus on positive things and not negative things. 

4. Go to God first. It is easy to vent to friends first and this seems to be our natural go-to but our natural go-should be to go to God first.